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Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Learning to squirt is truly Njoyable!

After my first few experiences with squirting, which came quickly and to my great surprise, I decided that what I really wanted was to learn how to squirt all by myself.

I went down to my local "female-friendly" sex toy store and spoke to the very knowledgeable woman there, who gave rave reviews about the Njoy stainless steel Pure wand, so I decided to make the investment and brought one home with me.

I'll admit, I was a little nervous using the wand for the first time. I didn't expect it to be so heavy and the metal is also a bit cold. I definitely recommend running it under lukewarm water for a few minutes before getting started. The wand felt seriously solid in my hands and I wasn't entirely sure how to use it..... until I did.

Once you're ready to go, you are in for a serious treat! Use a bit of lube and go slowly. You'll notice right away that once inserted, the Pure wand is the perfect shape to rest comfortable on the pelvic bone. The large ball sits gently up against the G-spot and with the simplest, easiest of rocking motions and almost no effort on my part, I could feel the pressure building within a few seconds! Go slowly and don't strain trying to move the wand around too much. Simply rock it back and forth gently with your hand on the smaller ball that sits on your pelvis and wait.

I was able to ejaculate all on my own the very first time I tried this wand.... and every time since! I've also discovered that the smaller end is great for anal play - my male partners swear by its prostate-stimulating powers!

Don't be intimidated by its size and weight, but don't let a careless partner get carried away with it either - this is not a toy for rough insertion and clumsy players. Use lots of lube, be sure to warm it up and let your partner guide your movements.

It's clean metal look makes it perfect for BDSM medical scenes and with the gorgeous satin-lined box it comes on, you might be temped to leave it out on display! The Njoy wand is safe, beautiful, easy to clean, hypoallergenic, multi-purpose and it will probably outlast you! Buy one today and you'll be a squirter in no time!

Saturday, July 17, 2010

World of Webcam

I am a live webcam model. You may have a lot of different ideas about what this actually means for me, so let me set the record straight.

I wasn't abused as a child, I am sexually responsible with my health and emotions and those of my partners. I am in a committed, long-term relationship and my husband is not only aware but very supportive of my work. When I was younger, I would cam2cam with men for free, because I was horny and curious and the internet was this wonderful, new and amazing thing. I still cam because I'm horny and curious, because it's fun - but if you can do something fun and get paid for it, why not?

I work from home (it's awesome!) and camming is not my sole source of income - I am also a freelance admin professional and writer. Sometimes I have my own office with a desk and a couch and proper seating too. Sometimes my computer is perched on a shelf at the foot of my bed and I spend most of my day lounging. Because we are entrepreneurs, my partner and I enjoy quite a bit of travel and don't mind relocating just for the fun of it. We can go anywhere the internet can take us!

I don't usually "troll", a term that can be confusing because it is also used to refer to folks, like the legendary trolls of fairy tales, who enjoy sitting around waiting for newbies to traipse on by and then pounce on them like big, hairy jerks. The term in the adult industry actually refers to the fishing term, trolling - as in, dropping my line and sailing on by, waiting for a bite.

Sometimes webcam and phonesex artists (I used to do phonesex in college, so this isn't my first foray into the adult industry) will hang out in free chat rooms, trying to convince guys to pay for a private show. I find that I make more money working for prepaid bulk time websites and advertising myself on craigslist and other such venues.

I do own quite a bit of lingerie, or at least my collection is beginning to grow. I don't own enough shoes, yet and that's something I'm working on. I have a nice collection of toys that I am also expanding, including a home-built fucking machine that the guys just love. I'll post more on that beauty later.

All in all, I love what I do. Sometimes guys will try to make me feel guilty or slutty because of my choice, but those are usually the guys who can't afford my time. I don't let it get to me and if it ever does, I have a very supportive partner to help me deal.

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

If I Were A Boy

I just heard this Beyonce song for the very first time. "If I were a boy even just for a day,
I'd roll out of bed in the morning and throw on what I wanted and go drink beer with the guys, and chase after girls. I'd kick it with who I wanted and I'd never get confronted for it 'cause they stick up for me."

I just have to say that my feelings go out to any women out there who feel that their gender somehow prevents them from wearing whatever they want and drinking what they want and flirting with other women and having genuine, trustworthy friends.

But being a woman who does what she wants, wears what she wants, drinks what she wants, fucks who she wants and chills with who she wants.... well, I'm having a hard time believing it. Blaming womanhood for keeping you down is being a sexist, as far as I'm concerned.

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Astrological DNA

I'm a big fan of astrology - it is an incredibly intricate art and science with emerging relevance in science as well as pop culture. The idea is that DNA responds to light - the kinds of light in an environment deeply affect the way cells develop in response to their DNA.

If we know this, then can we not assume that the variance of starfall (light from stars and planets that reaches earth), which is different at every moment depending on the bodies in the visible sky, may then be correlated with our our DNA responds and our cells begin to develop? Even in the womb we are exposed to some filtered natural light, but the day of our birth - the day when we first experience raw natural light - must have a significant impact on our development!

If you are an astrological skeptic, I highly recommend Antero Ali's book Angel Tech: A Modern Shaman's Guide to Reality Selection. Using his techniques gave me a much deeper understanding of chart-casting, a whole new view on my personal development and my relationships, a greater understanding of my husband and some excellent insight into our wedding plans!

In particular for relationships, pay attention to the placement of Venus (The Magnetic Force: how we attract love, beauty and art to ourselves, as well as our sociability & relating style) and Mars (The Motivating Force: how action is initiated through the basic drive, urge for power and sexual instinct).

If you have any questions about how to interpret your Mars & Venus placements / aspects, leave a comment or send me an email - bexandBigO@gmail.com

Tuesday, July 6, 2010

Go Topless Day

I live in a country where the court system has already agreed that women have the right to be topless in public spaces. On August 22, 2010 women from around the US will be protesting for their right to do the same, by doing it!

Aside from the occasional foray to a nude beach and some lovely naked drumming and dancing at the usual summer festivals, I don't exercise my right to be topless in public. I don't even go in to my backyard topless, usually, for fear of surprising the gentle old man next door.

This year on August 22, in support of my American sisters still fighting for their rights, I am going to find an reason to be topless in public and I hope you will too!

Join our events page on Facebook: Go Topless Day!

Thursday, July 1, 2010

The Next Sexual Revolution

Dare to love differently! That is our slogan and our dream, that those who yearn for different love, for a love that is perhaps strange and unknown or secret and hidden, we will dare to come out of our shell and live our lives as we see fit!

Polyamourists, pansexuals, powerplayers, kinksters, swingers, Masters and slaves, Dommes and subs, tops and bottoms, Priestesses and whores, shamans and ordeal facilitators, courtesans and quadishti, dancers and dakini - we are sacred sex, and sacred sex is for everyone!

This blog is dedicated to all things sex, all things that can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves and each other, to better sex and better love!